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Hi guys, how are you doing? International Woman Day is coming soon, and I would like to make some reflections about several roles we perform at home and in society. We are conditioned, since we were born, to be perfect women, it means being beautiful, successful, have an organized house, high educated children, and make the husband happy (in the wide sense of the word).
Must we really need to be perfect women? I am wondering, is this stereotype not hurting us? So, I am going to answer, yes, it is.
We should not do several things at the same time
Guys, this story that we are multi-tasks is a myth that we should take away from us. First, because it just overloads us; and second, it is not true; we are not better than men to do many things at the same time.
The latest studies prove that no person (man or woman) manages to execute several tasks very well, we are not multi-tasks, we simply have much more things to do than men; simply like that. As we believe we are able to, we accept and also boast ourselves. Do you realize that is a trap?
Although some husbands are changing, by assuming determined domestic tasks and take care of the children, the discrepancy is still too big, without talking about the salary gaps and the opportunities in the labor market.
Man and woman get out to work, but if the child gets sick or has a problem at school, the responsibility gets to us, and this must change. We have to learn how to share more and stop charging ourselves, taking all the responsibilities. Not why we are feminists, but because we are human beings, and we are getting sick.
The pressure’s price
So many things to do, social pressure, esthetical, self-charging, are destroying our mental health. According to Daniel Freeman, psychologist from Oxford University in United Kingdom the women have 40% more chance than men of suffering a mental decease. Freeman has done a study based on 12 research which has come to conclusion that we have 75% more chance to get depressed in a recent period and 60% more anxiety than men.
If we approach the esthetical issue, that we are attacked since childhood to reach a perfect body, we can add some more diseases to the list, like eating disorders (binge eating, anorexia, and bulimia)!
Beauty is in the singularity
We are so charged for adapting to beauty standards, that we forget the “beautiful” is in the singularity, in everything which becomes us unique, nor the twins are totally equals. We can be gorgeous like we are, no need to fit in a specific model that was demanded of us.
Valorizing who we are, our hair, our bodies and its transformations is to respect us, to reference our story, our ancestors and ourselves.
Beauty is in the acceptance and in the happiness, and not in media standards. If it makes you happy, so it is beautiful.
I would like to leave here a reflection on International Woman Day, do not seek perfection, look for your happiness and well-being. Share more, if it failed to do something, it is everything all right, if the thing did not get as you wanted, do not suffer for this, relax. Life is to be lived, with smoothness and happiness, not for being perfect, but must be full.
Kisses
