![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.lumarinho.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Dores-e-amores-de-ser-mae-2-995x1024.jpeg\")
<\/p>\nHi guys, how are you doing? I keep myself inspired by the proximity of Mother\u2019s Day, for this reason, I want to purpose a reflection about the pains and loves of being a mother; yes, because not everything is flowers. Educate a human being is not simple, demands a lot of dedication, a routine of questions, uncertainty, but, mainly, tenderness, and indescribable love. It already got to feel as the maternal life is ambiguous, is not it really?<\/p>\n
<\/p>\n
In February 2000 I prepared myself for the beginning of a new cycle of love. From that big belly would get out two new lives, and the mine would not be the same anymore. That\u2019s it really, I had a twin\u2019s couple, I was get blessed with a boy and a girl, two different universes, and, at the same time, complementary.<\/p>\n
Everything was ready, the bedroom, the babies\u2019 clothes, but internally I felt a whirlwind of contradictory emotions; fear of childbirth, happiness for babies coming, sadness for the loss of that belly, and the only certainty it is as soon as my children get out from me, they would be of the world, and not just mine.<\/p>\n
I tried to calm myself down, asking God for health to watch over my little babies, wisdom to transmit respect, and love to others, to nature, and for life. The cycle was closing, and a new one would get started, a phase of unmeasurable love\u2026A mother was born!<\/p>\n
![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.lumarinho.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Dores-e-amores-de-ser-mae-5.jpeg\")
<\/p>\n
I had the privilege to be able to dedicate myself integrality to maternity until they were nine years old. It was a wonderful period, I accompanied plenty of my children\u2019s development, the first steps, the first falls, I discovered that mother\u2019s kiss is a \u201choly\u201d medicine, and the laugh of them was the best world symphony.<\/p>\n
After, my children started to go to school, and little by little, they were getting more independent, already want to sleep in a friend\u2019s home, and I left to be the most important person in their world. One more cycle has started, they were discovering a new universe and I was getting back to work.<\/p>\n
Of course, it was hard, we want children under the wings all the time, but protecting a lot is the same to make them incapable. The children need to be stimulated to autonomy to learn of dealing with life challenges. And we also need to take care of our independence, have our own dreams and projects.<\/p>\n
To complicate, the world is full of \u201cexperts\u201d, who are constantly teaching how we should grow our children, what is right or wrong, anyway, making maternity a sea of dilemmas and insecurities!<\/p>\n
![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.lumarinho.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Dores-e-amores-de-ser-mae-1.jpeg\")
<\/p>\n
As the babies do not come with an instruction guide, we get all the time walking on wobbly strings. We never know whether we are charging them in the right measure or flattering them a lot.<\/p>\n
In my case that I have twin, I perceive that the world compares my children all the time like they had the obligation to be equals, but, in reality, they are completely different people. As a mother, I am the base, so I need to respect their individuality and give support for each one to follow his way. After all, my rule, as a mother, is to prepare them as better as possible.<\/p>\n
![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.lumarinho.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Dores-e-amores-de-ser-mae-3-1009x1024.jpeg\")
<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.lumarinho.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Dores-e-amores-de-ser-mae-4-1024x1013.jpeg\")
<\/p>\n